The Underrated Staycation

December 28, 2010 at 4:13 PM | Posted in Globetrotter, Jetsetter | 1 Comment

Sometimes travelers end up seeing and exploring more of a foreign city than their very own. Next time you have time off take time to discover your city too.

Plan a full day of activities
Wake up early and plan a jam packed schedule of to-do’s. Museums, shows, lunch, dinner, the whole nine. Remember to take pictures!

Research your city like a tourist
You know all those sites and blogs (ahem, yours truly) you use to get tips on what to do in a city? Do that with your city. Do an internet search on current happenings and must-see limited time only events.



Bargainista tips: Never pay full price again

December 27, 2010 at 6:04 PM | Posted in Economista | 2 Comments

Check prices at obscene times of the night
This goes double for flights and hotel rooms. Try 1a.m., 2a.m. 3a.m. and on.

Utilize google
E-bay. Amazon. A plethora of resources starts with one click. Enough said

Ask someone

If they know of any sales. You may even luck out and they may have the item you’re seeking. This has happened to me a few times. I was looking for a specific appliance or clothing item and presto the person had an extra one or gently used one.
Check for discount codes

Check your job for discounts

A lot of corporate jobs have employee discounts on pretty much anything under the sun. Discounted cell bill. Check. Discounted show tickets, check. Discounted car, check. (not even kidding)

Shop off-season
I buy winter clothing in the summer and summer clothing in the winter. Why? Because seasons happen. Winter will eventually come and those ca-yute designer boots I have on. Yup. 20 bucks. ::saunters away::

Check the web for discount codes
If you know the specific item, you may be able to get a discount code someone posted. It works for Broadway plays and online shopping

Don’t only shop when you have “something to do”
I really cannot stand when people buy outfits for specific occasions. Do you not have anything in your closet? That’s what a closet is for. Clothes. A variety of clothes. Build your closet and buy when you like something. You don’t always need a specific event to buy that Tina turner inspired dress. Live! Something will come up. Sheesh!
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The problem with stereotypes is not the stereotype at all

December 19, 2010 at 11:14 PM | Posted in Ah C'mon!, Don't be a Dummy, Education | 5 Comments

Labels are comfortable. Don't be a slob.

Because I am sure there are people from every group on the planet that embodies a stereotype, however these people are not the representative of their group. There are others. There are alternatives. That is the problem. There’s no balance. No population of any people is a monolith and it is mind-boggling to think that in a a world with so many choices, so many colors, flavors, creeds, walks of life, and “alternative” way of life that people still hold on to the belief that stereotypes should still pervade our media mainframes. There were some who had a problem with Antoine Dodson’s initial news appearance. In the station’s follow-up, they addressed the outcry about “questioning the decision to let people like him share their story, because it reflects poorly on the community” and the reporter countered saying “censoring people like Antoine is far worse.” Antoine admitted he was just being himself, not trying to portray a stereotype. He is who he is and no one should fault him for it. He’s not the problem. The stereotype isn’t either. It is the lack of non-stereotypes that I cringe at.

More than anything, these depictions are just frigin boring. Seriously. It is lackluster, dusty, uncreative and unimaginative. You have no capacity to learn, to grow to educate yourself that you simply lean on archaic ideas to describe, millions of people on this planet? Does that even make any sense? I have said it before and I will say it again, there is a trend of crying “racism” every time a group of people finds something unfavorable. Not everything is racist, or meant to be racist. There are many factors to consider before playing the “racist” card. Intent and ignorance. If the intent wasn’t malicious (and that is very easy to gauge) then I can’t legitimately call it racism. If the person is ignorant or had little to no exposure to people of color then I can’t call you a racist. I can freely call your point of view offensive and say you’re uneducated, unrefined, uncultured and brutish. Perhaps even a heathen. But not a racist. Logically, you have to pick and choose these battles because the battle for squashing stereotypes is a losing one and pretty pointless. You can only combat it by showing something different.

I remember my sister was watching a commercial for a children’s movie and when it was done, she turned to me visibly upset and said “why does the Black woman always have to be screaming and have a nasty attitude?” I didn’t have an answer for her. She was 15 and noticed and wasn’t happy about it. I just had to remind her that we are so much more than these minority archetypes. We are major. There is so much more to a Hispanic woman, to a Black man, to an Asian, Arab, Native American than meets anyone’s eyes. Unfortunately it won’t be shown but it’s up to the individual to diversify their life experiences with these different types of people. But if they don’t, well surely the individual will believe every tall guy plays basketball whilst slapping bitches in their Range Rover after making it rain with a stolen purse. Why not? They know no better.
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Things to do this weekend: Brooklyn and Harlem

December 15, 2010 at 9:36 PM | Posted in Abs Fab | Leave a comment

Brooklyn Craft Central’s legendary Holiday Market III December 18 and 19!
(from yelp) We’re taking the crass out of procrasstinating with Brooklyn Craft Central’s perfectly timed Holiday Market, December 18th-19th. In its third year, the market springs to life at two venues: Textile Arts Center and Littlefield Performance Space – a few blocks from each other and from the subway… easy! Join over 70 finely selected vendors of handmade crafts and food, workshops, drink specials and more!
It’s okay to wait! Bring your list and get all the info and directions at!

Harlem PoP Closing Festivities
Join us this weekend as we celebrate the marvelous run we’ve had at Harlem PoP. Partake in complimentary cocktails, good music and GREAT DEALS on must have fashion finds. And if you’ve never been to Harlem PoP here’s your last chance to check out what the NYC Press including the NY Times, Time Out NY, The Village Voice and The Amsterdam News has been raving about.


This is Life or Death: Women start taking your sexual health seriously!

December 11, 2010 at 5:21 PM | Posted in Health, Hot Sex on Fire, Love, Dating & Relationships | Leave a comment

Many an HIV spokesperson say it was “only one time” of unprotected sex. Friends have admitted they haven’t been to the gyno in years or ever, and I have heard of a colposcopy that had not been done years after the gyno recommended one. I have but one question. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE?????
I don’t know why more care is being taken to polish up the outside of female bodies rather than the inside. And the inside is what can kill you. A pap smear can detect abnormal cervical changes before they become cancerous. Did you know that you need to have a pap smear at age 21, or after you become sexually active? This applies to all of you reading. Do it now. Do it now. Do it now.

Elizabeth Edwards (R.I.P) said she let down her family and the country by neglecting to get mammograms that could have caught her cancer earlier. She said she didn’t, and by the time she felt a lump in her breast in 2004 and was able to get it removed, it had grown to nine centimeters and the cancer had spread elsewhere. She said she did not have to be in this situation. Early detection is still crucial in breast cancer survival. I remember figuratively beating my mother over the head to get one, I even sent her a mammogram reminder in the mail. She went. She said it felt good. She’s weird. Anyway, I don’t care if there’s “debate” over the “right age” to get a mammogram, you are the only person responsible for your life so start acting like it. Regular self breast examinations before age 40 are a must and do it often.
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The Pitfalls and Pros of Solo Travel

December 8, 2010 at 1:41 PM | Posted in Faces Abroad, Globetrotter, Jetsetter | Leave a comment

As I praise solo travel, there are definite cons to choosing to do so. I’ve put together a list of pitfalls I’ve come across as well as the pros of such travel. It’s important to weigh which are more important to you when embarking on your destinations.

No one to take your picture
Any travel pictures I have with me in them were taken by complete strangers. 99% of people oblidge when you ask nicely no matter what language you speak. A simple smile, and point to your camera does the trick, but there was that time in Prague when I was denied my picture and it was a bit maddening. Read More at

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