Best Advice: Don’t take him seriously…until you do.January 12, 2010 at 6:34 PM | Posted in Boys! Boys! Boys!, Love, Dating & Relationships, Please don't be "that girl" | 12 Comments
Let me explain that. I was having a convo via text message with my good friend Nita. I was inviting her to an amazing hip hop event this week in the city. She’s feeling a little under the weather so I wasn’t sure if she would be up to it.
She wrote “…oooh I really want to see some bboys and they’d probably b there too.” I read the text too fast and thought she wrote ‘boys’ and not ‘B-Boys’ as she wrote. So to motivate her to health I texted back “boys boys boys”
She was confused and I wrote “haha I thought you meant boys cuz that’s what I wanna see! haha.”
Nita: Boys make my head hurt
Dash: They’re fun to play with!
Nita:Meh i guess
The thing is boys ARE fun! They’re fun to hang out with, they’re fun to date, they’re fun to make fun of, they’re fun to torture. They’re pretty much fun in any situation. I love boys! The funny thing is I’ve never been boy-crazy. I was a tom-boy for a large part of my life and under the 6 inch stilettos and MAC eyeshadow I can still scrap with the best of them. I have sent many a male suitor into the fetal position at my playful punches. I think the biggest reason women say boys cause headaches is because they actually take them for more than the joke they are. Stop taking these clowns seriously! Period.
I’m not saying to go around calling and believing every guy is an idiot (although that would help) but my best advice to women is do not take a boy seriously until it becomes natural to do so. To elaborate, keep everything light. Don’t be so uptight. Things women get upset about usually rolls right off a guy’s back. We should learn to do the same. To achieve all the goals I noted in my “Don’t Be Psycho,” it is important to stop taking boys and yourself so damn seriously! Life is short. Boys are fun. Play with them. Now, being able to play AND take him seriously, is what separates the men from the boys. So until then…as Lady Gaga said: “Boys! Boys! Boys! We love them, We love them!!” Couldn’t agree more.